Women who live with lots of stress — at least half
of us — are physically unable to even think about sex.
Under heavy stress your body activates your adrenal fight-or-flight mechanism. Your
system goes into survival mode and your body’s most important jobs — blood flow
and heart rate — are prioritized over sex and all other functions.
Your body waits for the stress to let up but if it keeps going, everything related
to sex goes on the back burner, including libido, vaginal lubrication, and even
happiness. You know your stress is mental and emotional, but your body doesn’t.
Having sex — and wanting to have sex — are important to your health and happiness.
Yes, stress turns off your sex drive but we can show you how to switch it back on.
Stress, sex and the hormone connection
Under normal conditions, our sex lives are driven by our hormones. Estrogen, progesterone
and testosterone naturally raise or lower libido and sexual pleasure depending on
our monthly cycles. But when you’re stressed all the time, the adrenal hormone cortisol
suppresses sex hormones and kills your libido.
Too much cortisol also decreases testosterone, the main hormone that makes you want
to have sex and leads to heightened sexual pleasure. High cortisol even affects
DHEA (dehydroepiandrosterone), the “mother” hormone for estrogen and testosterone.
Estrogen and progesterone also drop naturally in menopause.
High cortisol also leads to other symptoms that get in the way of sex drive, like
new weight gain, intense cravings, extreme fatigue and insomnia. Despite all these
cortisol-related effects on your hormones, you can restore your sex life and enjoy
the stress-releasing, mood-boosting, pain-relieving fun that good sex delivers.
3 steps to reduce the effects of stress and refuel your sexual desire
If your stress is unrelenting, turn your attention first to your adrenal function.
Then focus on ways to allow your body, and mind, to become more receptive to sexual
arousal. Your libido may seem nonexistent right now but following this approach
will allow it to grow a little more every day.
1. Contain cortisol to free up your sex hormones.
If your stress is high and stays that way indefinitely,
cortisol production turns into a runaway train that can’t stop on its own.
Specific plant chemicals like l-theanine and phosphatidylserine can
calm the adrenals and shift your body away from heavy cortisol production
and more toward DHEA to unleash the natural sex hormone cascade. This helps restore
your natural cortisol curve and normalize hormone levels so your body can relax.
Chronic stress also leaves you feeling tapped out so seek out
herbs for energy like Siberian ginseng and rhodiola to relieve fatigue and
boost energy, and astralagus root to help fend off the effects of stress. Work toward
a long-term stress solution to naturally lower cortisol by analyzing your lifestyle
today. Can create more time for yourself? Learn to meditate? Little shifts can help
you learn how to prevent stress from infecting your sex life in the future.
2. Add sex toys and lubrication to your nightstand.
When stress blocks libido, make the idea of sex fun again by shopping for bedroom
toys and lubrication. If you’ve never used them before, vibrators and dildos, and
a million and one other options for stimulation, can quickly turn on sex drive.
Lubes help restart the arousal process by adding a charge to
the sensation of touching yourself, or being touched sexually by a partner.
When you add sex toys and lubes to your life, you instantly put yourself back in
action to explore self-stimulation on your own, or with a partner. Enjoy a nice
tingle to the arousal process by taking a
natural libido enhancer that affects blood flow and sensation in the vaginal
3. Eat stress-relieving, aphrodisiac foods.
There are great foods that do double duty by reducing stress and stoking libido.
While the active ingredients in
foods that help with adrenal stress and sex drive are in small amounts,
the benefits of little dietary shifts add up quickly. Eating consistent meals and
snacks is important when you’re rebuilding adrenal health so don’t let yourself
get too hungry.
- Protein: get about 50 grams a day and choose fish
when you can. Eating fish is linked to having more sex, and fatty fish, like salmon,
have lots of omega-3s that help regulate adrenal hormones. Oysters are famous sex
foods because they’re loaded with zinc, necessary to make testosterone. Eggs are
a good source of sex-friendly nutrients too, and so are nuts and seeds.
- Vegetables: eat asparagus — it’s got the right kind
of B vitamins to boost arousal and orgasm while relieving stress and anxiety. Enjoy
avocados for the same reasons. Celery contains pheromones that travel to your brain
to increase arousal. Add greens, spinach, cucumbers and carrots to reduce stress,
- Sweet things: savor the natural sugars in fruits,
particularly blueberries, because they increase energy and help the body release
dopamine, a chemical linked to sex and pleasure. Watermelon has a phytonutrient
that the body converts to arginine, an amino acid that leads to increased blood
flow in the genitals. And indulge in 1-2 ounces of dark chocolate because it’s known
both for relieving stress and having a positive effect on sex drive.
Even if you don’t feel sexual today, taking these steps can really propel you forward.
Your sex life is too important to surrender it to chronic stress, especially since
having sex is a proven stress reliever. It isn’t about having an orgasm, though
those let off lots of steam too.
The real goal here is to transcend stress and reopen the gates of your natural sex
drive. Once that happens, you’ll know — and want to do — what comes next.
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