By Kate, Nurse-Educator
When I had the chance to sit down with Dr. Mary James, ND, sex educator BarbaraCarrellas and Dr. Sharon Stills, NMD, to discuss libido changes in perimenopauseand menopause, I wasn’t sure what to expect. Whether due to upbringing, individualmodesty or lack of a supportive social circle, an open and frank discussion aboutthe way menopause changes us sexually seems to be lacking for many women.
We think it’s about time for that to change and we hope you’ll join the conversation!Two of the most interesting ideas that stuck with me relate to using the years ofmenopausal hormone shift as an opportunity to evaluate where there’s room to changeand grow as women and individuals.
The first idea is in relation to intimacy. Often, viewing intimacy as a connectionthat transcends the boundaries of intercourse and working to maintain or re-establishintimacy with a partner after many years can be enough to bring back the feelingsof trust, support and connection to breathe life into a struggling sex drive. Notin a partnership right now? Maybe it’s time to check in and get intimately acquaintedwith yourself.
The second idea is that menopause is the perfect time to take stock of what’s servingus mentally, emotionally, and sexually, and take advantage of the opportunity totry something different. Throwing out the tired daily routines, limiting thoughtpatterns, and toxic relationships, and bringing in new self-care rituals, learningopportunities and adventures is essential to nurturing the sense of self and movinginto this next chapter with confidence and joy.
The same concept holds true for our sexual selves. This is a great time to makea “sexual bucket list,” giving yourself permission to let go of any part of yoursex life that doesn’t serve you and get you excited about the endless options ahead.Maybe for you that means trying out a new position, location or toy (or perhapssomething a little more risqué), while for someone else it means stepping out ofthe mindset of sex as her “every Saturday whether I care to or not” obligation.The only one who can know what will serve you is you, and there’s never been a bettertime to think of yourself honestly and completely.
What’s more, in this Hangout discussion our experts offer up some truly valuableinsights about the causes and potential solutions for challenges to maintaininga healthy libido. They also suggest resources to help take these steps, and so muchmore. Touching on topics including the physiological reasons libido changes, theimportance of hormonal balance in maintaining sex drive, ways to revive a dwindlinglibido, and whether we should even bother to try bringing it back (the answer mightsurprise you!) –it’s a fun and intriguing chat that you don’t want to miss!
* Information presented here is not intended to cure, diagnose, prevent or treatany health concerns or condition, nor is it to serve as a substitute professionalmedical care.