Barbara Carrellas, AASECT, is a best-selling
author, sex/life coach, and sex educator certified by the American Association
of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists. She is a content contributor
to Women’s Health Network and the founder of Egasm.com, a sex-positive website devoted to helping people
of all genders and sexual preferences reach their sexual potential. Egasm.com provides information, inspiration, and humor along
with Barbara’s unique insights about sex, eroticism and ecstatic adventures.
Barbara’s books include Urban Tantra, Sacred Sex for the Twenty-first Century, Ecstasy is
Necessary: A Practical Guide to Sex, Relationships and Oh So Much More;
and Luxurious Loving: Tantric Inspirations for Passion and Pleasure.
Barbara is well-known internationally as a passionate and compassionate workshop
facilitator, and is a sought-after media expert and motivational speaker. A former
Broadway and Off-Broadway producer and general manager, her life path shifted into
sexuality and healing during the AIDS crisis, when she became determined to find
and share ways for all people to enjoy safer sex while still being able to pursue
and fulfill their sexual fantasies, hopes and dreams.
Barbara is driven by her mission to offer people permission and possibilities to
reach for the “something more” that ecstatic experiences can reveal. She believes
that sex is healing, spiritually revealing, and ultimately connected to every aspect
of our lives.
To get to know Barbara Carrellas better, see her answers to the questions we ask
all our contributors.
Get to know Barbara Carrellas
1. Book or movie that changed your life?
The Empty Space by Peter Brook, the great English theatre director.
My first lover gave it to me for my 16th birthday. It gave me a language and a way
of thinking about making theatre. Although it was written specifically about the
theatre, the book’s wisdom applies to all the spaces in which we come together to
create magic and transformation. I reread it every few years because it’s become
an unconscious operating system that runs in the background of my mind and informs
everything I create.
2. Favorite healthy snacks?
Crisp raw radishes. I’ve loved snacking on them since I was a kid.
3. What do you do for exercise?
I walk around New York City. I also love my Pilates class and this past summer I
fell in love with yoga on the beach. It’s inspired me to return to a more regular
yoga practice. My pug Mollyanna and I are also very fond of brisk off-season beach
4. Guilty pleasure?
I’m addicted to the British soap opera “EastEnders.” It’s been on the air for 30
years and I’ve been watching it since the first episode. British soap operas are
totally different from American ones. They feature the trials and tribulations of
the working class. In my house we say, “No matter how challenging our day might
have been, we can count on someone in EastEnders having had a significantly worse
one.” It’s very comforting. ;-)
5. Favorite hobby and things to do when you have time off?
Ha! What time off? There’s not much of it. Luckily I love what I do, so I don’t
mind. So much of my work is wildly pleasure-centric. I do love horseback riding.
Whenever and wherever I travel, I make a point of hanging out with local horses.
I love surfing, although I’m still such a beginner. And if there’s a beach nearby,
you’ll definitely find me lying in the hot sun.
6. If you could go anywhere in the world, where would it be?
I want to go back to Kenya and spend a couple of weeks living in a Maasai manyatta.
Some young, progressive Maasai chiefs use the money earned by hosting visitors to
pay for wonderful causes such as girls’ education and ending female circumcision.
7. If you had a magic wand what spell(s) would you work?
I’d eliminate shame and violence around gender non-conformity and sexuality. I’d
repeal prostitution laws. I’d make consensual sexual activity legal and acceptable
in all its wondrous variations.
8. How did you become interested in women’s health and sexuality?
I first became interested in health and sexuality during the AIDS crisis in the
1980’s. My initial quest was to find a way for people to have sex that was both
healing and safe. Although my first intention was to help my gay male friends, I
quickly realized that safer sex was an issue that affected everyone. My interest
in women’s health and sexuality is now grounded in a desire to offer women permission
and possibilities to expand their erotic outlooks. I also want to counteract the
belief that you are abnormal or broken if your sexuality doesn’t look like someone
else’s. Each of us is on our own unique erotic evolutionary path. That needs to
be supported and celebrated.