Has your sex life changed in menopause? Women don’t
stop thinking about — or having — sex during menopause just because their bodies
are undergoing hormonal shifts. If you’re like many women in perimenopause and menopause
who are still very interested in sex, you may even be
ready to spice it up a notch.
Sexual exploration in menopause is an exciting proposition and many women want to
learn more about it. And researchers say that women in their late 40s are far more
likely than younger women to have fulfilling sex and multiple orgasms. Hurray for
If you’ve been waiting to let go sexually, now is the time. You can open the door
to a richer, more exciting and ultimately more fulfilling sex life in menopause
with our 3-step plan that shows you how to:
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Two ways to take Arginelle
1. Expand your libido
2. Enroll in sex toys 101
3. Entertain your fantasies
First step: Expand your libido and sexual response
If you have physical symptoms like low libido and vaginal issues along with emotional
ones like irritability and anxious feelings, you might not feel very sexual. Most
women want to feel the pulse of a strong libido and there are effective, natural
ways to feel more interested in sex.
Simple steps to lift libido and relieve physical barriers caused by dropping estrogen
and hormonal imbalance can lead you to discover wonderful new ways to have and enjoy
- Check your stress level — long periods of stress
can worsen imbalances in your sex hormones. When you feel nervous and anxious from
ongoing or sporadic stress, use deep breathing to diffuse tension. Regular exercise
and simply going outside also release stress.
- Proactively support improved sexual response and interest
a naturally-occurring amino acid that is converted in the body to nitric oxide and
increases genital circulation. For many women, this extra step can reawaken and
enliven their sexual awareness.
- Try natural lubricants for improved moisture and increased
vaginal comfort. “Lubes” are longer-lasting and better at moisturizing sensitive
tissues than regular lotions or oils. Visit a female-friendly boutique or try online
Applying a lubricating product to vaginal tissues eases dryness and helps stimulate
arousal. More sexual activity — with a partner or without — can lead to better blood
flow and improved vaginal health.
Second step: Enroll in sex toys 101
Ideally, taking erotic risks strikes the perfect balance between the thrill of being
on the edge while still feeling safe. A sex toy can offer that “something new” sexual
kick you’re looking for because it adds another dimension to exploring and masturbating
with your fingers. And if you have a partner, you may have fun playing with a new
sex toy together. Watching someone become stimulated can be very arousing.
Using a vibrator
for the first time?
To start, simply move the vibrator slowly all around your body to see what it feels
like here, there — and there. Your vibrator can help you find and stimulate your
most sensitive erogenous zones. The breasts, vagina, clitoris and anal area are
all very responsive. Explore every curve and corner to discover what really turns
you on. You might also experiment with a dildo, a penis-shaped toy used for, among
other things, penetrative activities.
If you’ve never used a vibrator, take your first erotic risk by trying one, especially
if you haven’t had much experience with orgasm. To paraphrase our sex expert
Barbara Carrellas, “Expecting to orgasm for the first time without using
a vibrator is like trying to go around the world in a day without taking a plane.”
Vibrators are the go-to sex toy for women and they’re available in an astonishing
variety of shapes, sizes and price points. Inexpensive ones plug into wall outlets,
while others use batteries or are rechargeable. Higher priced versions offer more
speeds and vibration types and they’re usually quieter.
Shopping for sex toys can be a fun and eye-opening experience, with specialty stores
and online sites that market specifically to women. Babeland was founded expressly to supply women with information,
encouragement and sex toys and it offers a nice array of erotic accessories.
Third step: Entertain your fantasies
Do you have a secret sexual fantasy that you return to again and again? Fantasies
have been called the safest sex you can have because you control everything from
the location, to the partner(s), to the type of sex to the crescendo and what happens
afterward. A good, engaging fantasy can lead to powerful, tension-releasing orgasms.
If you have an active erotic fantasy life, you’re likely to have more sex and enjoy
more diverse sexual adventures.
While women tend to have more typically romantic fantasies than men, we encourage
you to let your mind wander where it wants during a sex fantasy. Even if they’re
wild and strange — or possibly a little dangerous — fantasies are still make believe,
and no one has to know what you’re thinking — ever.
The reality of life never has to intrude because everything in your fantasy is perfect
as you imagine it. Your fantasy might require special clothes or lingerie, or a
certain environment (lighting, music, etc.). You may also need props and accessories
to effectively act out your fantasy.
Should you share your fantasy with a partner? Fantasies can be trial runs for activities
to try with a partner or they can stay your private domain. Sharing fantasies can
be very arousing though it may complicate sex with a partner if you’re not on the
same wavelength. But erotic role-playing as a couple can inject new excitement into
sex. When it comes to working out the details, it helps if you and your partner
have solid communication abilities.
How to enjoy getting out of your sexual comfort zone
Barbara Carrellas helps people and couples figure out how to bring their fantasies
to life among other things. She says having a sense of humor is one of the most
important factors because comical things can happen on the way to ecstasy, and that’s
part of the fun.
For the beginning fantasist, Barbara advises that you set aside a space in your
life to let your fantasies bloom. At first, you may feel self-conscious or awkward
or even apprehensive or unsure. But that’s the point: you want to get out of your
comfort zone and try something new. If you don’t know where to start, Barbara suggests
asking yourself these gentle questions:
- If I knew what erotic adventure I wanted to take next, what would that be?
- If I knew who I wanted to take an erotic risk with, who would that be?
- If I knew how I wanted to feel after my next ecstatic experience, what would
that feeling be?
If you allow yourself to think about sex differently, those thoughts will help light
up your desire. Sex isn’t just a physical practice — your mind is a key element
to creating memorable sexual experiences. Letting yourself fantasize and experiment
with erotic toys and ideas is a glorious way to enjoy your body. Why not take advantage
of that opportunity?
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